As I mentioned in an Instagram post yesterday my life has been crazy busy. I remember a time like 2 years ago that I thought I was ‘busy’ and I kinda wish I could go back in time and slap myself for being so naive. Nothing prepares you for being a full-time mom, wife and employee. NOTHING.
Nevertheless, you all responded with such encouraging words because you all are the best thing since sliced bread!
I did get a lot of questions about how I stay so organized. Maybe it’s the fact that I haven’t posted to this blog in 2 weeks, or my inconsistent scheduling when it comes to posting on Instragram, but I have no idea what gave you all the impression that I’m organized lol. Nevertheless, here are my tips for staying afloat when all you really want to do is sit in your bathroom and cry. For the record, crying in the bathroom almost made this list.
1. Invest in a planner and use it
My best friend buys me a new Kate Spade planner every year for Christmas. Like literally she’s done it for the past 4 years or so – and I could not survive life without it! Thanks little Dino – you’re the best 🙂 But what’s the point of a planner if you aren’t going to use it to actually help you plan? This is where I put pertinent information for my work schedule, my editorial content and deadlines for my blog, Joe’s work and travel schedule and any important dates for Beckett. I’d be such a mess with out a place to log everything. And don’t preach to me about using my phone to schedule everything (JOE!). I am old fashioned and I need to write things down in an old school calendar with old school pencils. It’s just how I operate people!
2. Understand things Change
I try to get as many things done ahead of time as I can and for good reason. Now that I have a 3 month old, my day is inevitably going to veer off track at least once, if not twice. As much as I try to plan, Beckett just isn’t going to cooperate with everything I have scheduled. Some days she’s a perfect angel and our day goes completely according to plan. Other days I swear she’s smarter than all of us and doing things just to spite me. The more accepting I become of our changing schedule, the easier I find to balance it all.
3. You Can’t Do it All
This is the hardest for me to understand and accept. I have an extreme Type A personality and admitting defeat is not something that sits well with me. But at the end of the day I’m human, not superhuman and I simply cannot do everything I want to do, every single day. Case in point – this blog. I don’t even remember the last time I posted and even though I have outfits already photographed, I simply haven’t had the time nor energy to edit and post them. When push comes to shove, I have to be okay letting things fall by the wayside and for me, my family, my full time job and my sanity all take precedence. One day I hope to get in a better rhythm, but until that day comes – repeat after me: I can’t do everything for everybody every single day.
4. F*ck it.
Excuse my french, but the world isn’t going to end because I didn’t get to wash my hair, clean all of Beckett’s bottles and the dishes, work, blog, watch a movie with Joe, play with the dogs, eat breakfast, lunch and dinner, wash, fold and put away laundry, exercise, look perfect etc. etc. etc. every single day. Instagram, although I love it, makes it so easy to see other moms who portray themselves as killin’ it at life (maybe they are!), but this just leads me to feel bad about myself for not being able to do it all. Maybe that mom has mastered the art to being a supermodel, perfect mom, successful employee, trophy wife, fitness fiend and overall bada$$ human being. Kudos to them! I fell asleep on the sofa last night during date night with Joe. I woke up having not charged my phone and 15 minutes after my alarm went off. My underwear is two sizes to small, my child is in daycare and I screwed up at work today. I’ll probably skip the gym because running makes my thighs chafe (thanks pregnancy) and I might have cookies and milk for dinner. Guess what? The world is still revolving. I’ll look put together and perfect another day. Or maybe I won’t. F*ck it.
So if you are feeling busy, stressed or overloaded these are my tips for living to see another day with a smile on my face. Okay, maybe not so much of a smile, but like a half grin and some puffy, sleep deprived eyes. For the record, and more often than not I just skip right to number 4, but feel free to use any of these tips you find useful 🙂